Monday, August 24, 2015


I originally started this post in 2009.  I saved it as a draft 'cuz I wasn't sure it was something I wanted to actually promote on my blog. Plus I write A LOT that I never publish.   I had forgotten all about it until the media storm of the past week involving this website.   So here's goes.....

(Originally composed July 2009)

'cuz this is JUST what our society needs. The
whack job CEO and founder of Ashley Madison (dot) com was on The View today and I sat stupefied in my chair as I listened to him spew his amazingly wiggy, completely mind-blowing logic as to the need for on-line dating service for MARRIED people.

Really. Yes that's right...married people.

It's an online dating service for unhappy married people looking to have an affair. He claims 70% of all marriages will involve some sort of infidelity and they should have somewhere to turn after all, other than on-line dating services geared for singles.

The very charming tag-line on the website is "Life is short. Have an affair". Really!

Not to mention that the print ads and TV commercials are borderline p0rn*gr@phic.

The CEO claims that monogamy is hard and that people should have their own safe, discreet place to find that special someone if they are unhappy in their present marital relationship. He says the concept of marriage is undergoing tremendous change in the 21st century and they are just a vehicle to help move people thru that change. The saddest part is right now, they are boasting 3.72 million registered members.   (UPDATE!!!!   Now in 2015 it boasts 39 million users!  39 million people seeking to have an affair.  REALLY!!!)   

Here's the blurb from the website...
Ashley Madison is the most famous name in infidelity and married dating. As seen on Hannity, Howard Stern, TIME, BusinessWeek, Sports Illustrated, Maxim, USA Today.  Ashley Madison is the most recognized and reputable married dating company.Our Married Dating Services for Married individuals Work. Ashley Madison is the most successful website for finding an affair and cheating partners. Have an Affair today on Ashley Madison. Thousands of cheating wives and cheating husbands signup everyday looking for an affair. We are the most famous website for discreet encounters between married individuals. Married Dating has never been easier. With Our affair guarantee package we guarantee you will find the perfect affair partner. Sign up for Free today."



Hebrews 13:4 (NIV) Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

I Corinthians 7:3-5 (NIV) The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

God help us.

Tuesday, July 8, 2014

Catching up...

Here are a few things that have been happening here in the Hinterland since the first day of spring....

In March...
Jewel injured her ankle, keeping her from competing at the Level 7 State Gymnastics meet. 

Wren competed at the Level 6 State Gymnastics Meet and took 2nd place across all ages on bars.  Second best  in.the.state. on bars!   woot! 

Jaxon (youngest) broke his arm...a clean break of the radius about an inch above his left wrist. 4 1/2 weeks in an over-the-elbow cast. He managed the whole deal so well. 

In April...

It snowed.   'nuff said. 

Coleo (oldest) enlisted in the National Guard. He will attend the monthly drill weekends for the next year and will attend basic training and his AIT job training after he graduates high school next June. Scary, exciting and oh so proud of him. 

Coleo also injured his shoulder, which caused a condition called "winged scapula" resulting in weekly PT for him. We are hoping to avoid surgery...

In May...
Wren made the decision to move on from her 5 yr career as a gymnast. Here's a post My Robot wrote about that...

Jaxon ran 1 mile a day for 25 days at school, in preparation for a "kids marathon" with said broken arm and a flair of up plantars fasciitis.  He stuck with it to run the final 1.2 miles on the day of the marathon with his schoolmates.  

My 12 year tenure serving on the board of my local mothers of multiples group came to an end.  

I re-enrolled the girls in public school for 8th grade this fall after spending two years doing school at home with a local K12 online program.

In June...
Jewel saw her pediatrician who then referred us to orthopedics for her ankle, a new behind-the-knee pain and on-going headaches she gets when executing back walkovers.   She will begin PT in a few weeks to strengthen her ankle.  We are on rest with actvity restrictions for the knee and have been seeing a chiropractor for the headaches (not helping).  

Wren began to pursue other things, now that she isn't spending 20-24 hours a week in the gym.  Theatre, music, drama and choir!   Makes this singing-drama momma so excited!! 

Other interesting things...
In February, my Robot began traveling to Austin, TX for work - a week at a time about every 5 weeks.   

We began to contemplate making a move to Austin, TX.  All things were pointing to it, and then all of a sudden they weren't.   Will sit back and wait for a few more open doors or "signs" to stay put or go. 

School let out, none too soon.   

Orchid Jane Isabelle Mary continues to be the cutest, smartest pup on the she showing us she is the 30lb dog that likes to pretend she is small enough to sit on the back of the couch like the kitty boy. 

(and just for good measure, here's another post from the Robot himself all about how awesome a dog she truly is...and I like to share his stuff because he's just a better blogger than I am) 

So yeah...there's a little catch up from our little corner of the world. 

Sunday, April 20, 2014

Happy Easter!

He is risen!  He's alive!  Hallelujah! He's alive!

"Now on the first day of the week, very early in the morning, they, and certain other women with them, came to the tomb bringing the spices which they had prepared. But they found the stone rolled away from the tomb. Then they went in and did not find the body of the Lord Jesus. And it happened, as they were greatly perplexed about this, that behold, two men stood by them in shining garments. Then, as they were afraid and bowed their faces to the earth, they said to them, 'Why do you seek the living among the dead? He is not here, but is risen!'" Luke 24:1-6 (NKJV)

Wednesday, January 15, 2014

too real?

Wow.  I just this read this blog from Kristen over at Chasing Blue Skies and boy did it hit home.    Here's my story and how I can relate….

"I think I'm too real for you", she said.    

I stood there not having any clue how to respond.  (in my head I am thinking "what the fresh hell?)   

We were on the sidewalk, enjoying the warm fall sunshine and waiting for our kids to come out of school at the end of the day.  I had just apologized and lamented about how bad I felt that life had been so busy up to that point that we hadn't met for a morning coffee since school had started back up, but that next week was looking good.   

And she says, "I think I'm too real for you".

She is working thru some stuff, some pretty deep, unimaginable but very REAL stuff.  I get that. She has openly shared some of it with me.  She said when someone is sick with disease or cancer it's easy for people to care for them, but when it's head and heart stuff, past physical and emotional pain or mental health, she said people don't know how to care for you. They don't bring you meals or offer the same kind of help as when someone is physically ill.  Except that I would, if I thought she would accept it.  I have offered to pick up her kids, to just come and sit and be with her over coffee, to be a friend who is willing to just listen.  She talked her way out of any help every time. And she had already canceled on me twice since school started.   Perhaps if I was a better friend, I wouldn't let her talk her way out of it.  

My dilemma is that I counted her at the top of a pretty short list of women who I called friend. 

And she says, "I think I'm too real for you". 

I have no idea what she was trying to say to me in those 7 words.  If she is "too real" for me, is she saying that I am am NOT? not real enough for her?  Not authentic enough?  Not vulnerable enough?  Not transparent enough?   Or is she saying she doesn't think I can handle the things she is struggling with?  I don't think I have ever judged, or acted or said anything to give the impression that the things she has shared with me make me uncomfortable or I wish she hadn't shared them in the first place. 

Just prior to this statement, she had also said something about how she gets that some people are handed different lots in life, that some people just have it better, easier... whatever.    

But I realize NOW that was another slightly backhanded commentary on my life compared to hers.  I do have it good. I know that.  I have an amazing husband who loves me, is unselfish with his time, works hard and strives for excellence in all he does and has his priorities straight.  We both come from families of faith and commitment and long marriages.  We have great relationships with our extended families.  We don't have generational cycles of addiction or abuse in our past. We are financially stable, have worked our way out of minimal debt; we get to travel and do fun things without much trouble.  Our kids are decently smart and make good choices (most of the time).  We are connected and have an awesome church family.

So I know it appears on the outside that I must "have it better" than others, that things have somehow come more easily for me.   But I am lonely and struggle with self-esteem issues; I second-guess just about every choice I make - nearly everything I say, do and wear. I am 30 lbs overweight.   I question my "friend-ability" nearly every day.  Most days I feel pretty insignificant and that anything I could possibly contribute outside the walls of my own house wouldn't make a difference.  I wonder, especially now that I am in my 40's, what my purpose is - the big picture and greater good of what my life really means. I am very lazy in my walk with God - neglecting time spent in prayer and reading the Word more days than not.   I question my parenting, yell at my children too much and am terribly impatient.  I can be really (really) lazy and procrastination is one of my love languages.    

So no, I really don't have it all; I don't have my act together.  

But, I also think I am pretty darn "real". I am loyal to a fault.  I know how to laugh and cry.   I see things for what they are and have a pretty good gut instinct that I have learned to trust.   I trusted her.  I made time and invested in this friendship.  Does she think I am too good for her?  or not good enough?    I am sad that she has chosen to cut me off like this because I truly with my whole heart thought we were the real deal…she was THAT friend (the one my heart aches to have)  Even still, nearly three months later, replaying those words over and over, I don't know what she truly meant.  My gut is to forget it and not look back.  But then am I proving her right?  Was it a test?  Was she testing my "realness"?  My loyalty?  To see how I'd react and if I'd stick it out?  She has pushed me away before.  She is a complicated person and I have tried to stick it out, but this has thrown me for a loop.   

I just wonder how many times does one get pushed away before you just stop reaching out?  Do I go to her and tell her I miss her friendship and ask her what she meant? Was it a "bluff" that needs to be called?    I just don't know.   

I thought she was a "safe friend", the friend I have prayed for, and I know I was trying to be one to her, but now...I just don't know.  


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